Continui azi tot cu fragmente din ultimul capitol din carte (Cure Tooth Decay: Heal And Prevent Cavities With Nutrition ), pentru ca e, bineinteles, ceea ce ma preocupa mult acum.
Si insist pe tema cum ne afecteaza aparitia cariilor copiilor nostri pentru ca stiu din proprie experienta ca e un subiect delicat. Esti atat de paralizat, uimit, ti se pare ca nu ti-ai facut treaba ca parinte, you name it, o avaansa de sentimente, incat ai tendinta naturala nu faci nimic in privinta asta. Si pierzi timp pretios, pe care altfel l-ai putea folosi pentru a lua masuri in a imbunatati starea dintilor copilului tau, adica umband la dieta.
Tot asa ca in postul de aseara, it italics ce zice omul, comentariile mele langa. Sariti peste comentariile mele daca nu va intereseaza. Sunt mai mult note personale.
De data asta nu mai folosesc diacritice, merge mai repede tastatul fara ele.
Many parents will meet peer pressure concerning the treatment of their children’s teeth. For example, someone might ask why you are not brushing or taking care of your child’s teeth and thus blame you for your child’s tooth decay. I hope you have already come to see that although you were not completely responsible for their condition because society has taught you false beliefs and incorrect prevention methods for tooth decay, you must take complete responsibility for it now. Nobody had educated you on how to prevent tooth decay with good nutrition. You may not have known that brushing is only a secondary factor at best in preventing tooth decay.
Asa e: societatea ne-a inoculat credinte false si ne-a invatat metode incorecte de prevenire a cariilor. Si iar imi vine in minte ideea larg raspandita conform careia cariile dentare sunt urmarea atacului bacteriilor nesanatoase asupra smaltului dintilor. Sau cum pasta de dinti cu fluor e minunea minunilor ce iti protejeaza dintele ca un scut. Impotriva acelorasi bacterii ucigatoare, bineinteles. Of!
Da, suntem responsabili, cu toate astea, de dintii copiilor nostri. De sanatatea lor. Ne asumam in intregime responsabilitatea, ca parinti. Dar nimeni nu mi-a zis pana acum ca pot preveni cariile copilului meu cu alimentatie sanatoasa, cu mancare adevarata, ca la mama acasa (o sa revin asupra definitiei de real food – mancare adevarata).
Si aici iar imi aduc aminte de cat de tare insista Buni si nu numai ea sa ii dau carne Anei, proteina animala, adica! Si eu nu si nu. Si noi am crescut cu supa la oala minune (asa ii ziceam noi oalei sub presiune in care fierbea mama supa de vita cu legume), cu mancare gatita cu unt (ca doar uleiul de floarea soarelui era rationalizat) si sticla cu smantana groasa, de abia o scoteam (smantana, nu sticla), cu care mi-am facut toata clasa a doispea…Cu branza si lapte de la mamaie care a trait peste 80 de ani, singura, vaduva, ea si caprita ei si cele cateva gaini si porcul ce il impartea copiilor. Unde in copilarie mancam carne din canta de grasime si costita de porc uscata natural, la aer in ogeac, cu sare doar. Of, the real food!
Sigur, am mancat si margarina si salam de soia si multe altele. N-am avut de ales, am copilarit pe vremea comunistilor. Dar baza era mancarea gatita.
Dar sa revenim…
It is important to differentiate blame from responsibility. Blame does not have acceptance laced within it. It comes with the connotation that someone is at fault. Parents are often blamed for their child’s tooth decay and made to feel as if they are guilty or neglectful. It is important to hold parents accountable and responsible for their child’s health, but in an affirming and positive way. You are accountable for what you feed your children and for how you nurture and care for them. Everyone makes mistakes and no one really has the right to blame you. However, you do need to be accountable for the mistake, educate yourself, and then correct it in the best way possible.
People who tend to blame you will look for anything you are doing that is not in accordance with their beliefs. Usually what they criticize is that you are breastfeeding too much, or not brushing enough. Neither of these allegations can be determined by the dentist or by your peers as truly causing cavities. They cannot determine accurately that you were wrong in your behaviors, and besides, such condemnation only serves destructive ends.
The problem you are facing with peer pressure is a problem of societal ignorance. Many people have rigid beliefs about dentistry and tooth decay that they learned in childhood. Me included.
Apoi mai sunt si cei de la polul opus, cunoscutii care dau vina pe genetica sau spun ca sunt inevitabile cariile si ca nu putem face nimic, ca si parinti, in prevenirea lor. O scuza care incurajeaza parintii sa nu isi asume responsabilitatea pentru sanatatea copilului lor si care cedeaza luarea deciziei unei autoritati in domeniu, adica a dentistului:
Then there is the opposite of peer pressure, which is avoidance of pressure. Many blame “genetics” for their child’s decay. Parents can be lazy and claim that decay is inevitable, and that as parents one can do nothing about it. This type of excuse is subtle. It encourages parent not to be responsible for their child’s health and it relinquishes one’s decision-making power to an authority figure, such as a dentist.
Inchei (ca mi-e somn, nu de alta) cu un pasaj care ma ajuta mult pe mine. Pentru ca multi parinti sufera pentru aspecut dintilor copilului, ca „se vede”caria. As sublinia pasajul, l-as face mare, sa ne muste de nas:
If your child’s teeth are decayed, even if they are functional and protected, they may not look very pretty. Your young child, however, thinks everything is beautiful. If her teeth do not conform to the ideal standard of beauty, it won’t concern her as long as she is innocent of those standards. Otherwise, the condition of her teeth will seem quite natural and good to her. It is the adult mind and vision that demand a certain cosmetic appearance for our children’s teeth. From our conscious and many times limited vision, we may want to hide that our child has tooth decay. I want to encourage you to find beauty in your child’s teeth even with the decay. If her teeth have ceased to decay, then they now represent a triumph. They show you what sort of healing is possible, and remind you of how important and cherished your child’s health is. When you make the choice about the cosmetics of your child’s baby teeth, make the choice that will honor your child and her needs, not one that pays tribute to the adult world filled with superficiality.
Nagel, Ramiel (2010-11-01). Cure Tooth Decay: Heal And Prevent Cavities With Nutrition – Limit And Avoid Dental Surgery and Fluoride [Second Edition] 5 Stars (Kindle Locations 4289-4292). Rami Nagel. Kindle Edition.
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